Comments on: Still More Questions than Answers

By: stella g

stella g — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 22:43:36 +0000

those are some big questions. i especially appreciated your thoughts on the 2nd. i’ll be praying for you guys as you consider #4. such big decisions!

By: Audrey

Audrey — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 06:44:00 +0000

On number 1… I have no idea. No contributing thoughts or anything.

On number 2… I have been thinking about the same thing. I only have one right now, which I thought would be enough, but I don’t quite feel fulfilled yet. I don’t really feel like a family. My daughter is 17 months old, and I almost wish I would’ve gotten pregnant sooner, because I decided I DO want a second, and I want them very close together. I could come up with 10 million reasons NOT to have another child, EVER, not just right now…. but I still want a second child. I know that if I go purely by reason, I will NEVER have another child. It’s like those people who wait until they can “afford” to have kids. You can never “afford” to have kids! But God ALWAYS provides. Always. So my husband and I decided to jump. When one of us gets baby fever, we go for it. We’re acting on my hormones here! This is a serious gamble. But if it is God’s will that we have another, we will not just have another, but we will love that child just as much as the first, and we will raise him/her up to be a godly person, a light in a dark world. We will disappoint God and we will please Him, probably simultaneously. But it is all in His hands, and He will guide us and give us wisdom to help us make difficult decisions!

Although we don’t feel called to adopt….. yet.

By: Jordan

Jordan — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 04:30:11 +0000

Hey Sis,
I am with you on Adoption. Jessie and I have also always talked about adoption, and now that she is still extremely sick with the third pregnancy we feel that is the best route to take. There are so many children out there that need our love. Our children are our most important legacy we leave behind. How we care for them, and teach them and the impact they will have and pass on to their families.
Amen sister!

By: Mom

Mom — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 02:05:26 +0000

Yes, alot of questions – but I am so thankful that you have placed it all at the feet of our loving God and Savior, who knows the right answers. He will let you know at the right time. We always continue to lift you up in our prayers also.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 00:03:08 +0000

Wow, you have a lot going on! It’s good that you & Scott can sit down and discuss these issues.
We will send Pebbles to a public school for sure. With her being the only child we feel she needs all the socializing she can get and to realize everyone is not like her and may not share the same beliefs as her. I feel it make them more prepared for the world/ work environments. But, that’s just my little opinion.
I do not want to offend anyone who homeschools here…I truly understand why parents homeschool and I feel it up to each indivdual.
Best of luck to ya!

By: Dorah

Dorah — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 21:05:55 +0000

Not to add to your confusion, but have you considered domestic adoption, particularly through the foster care system? There are soo many kiddos right in our own neighborhoods who are being neglected and abused (there are thousands of domestic children waiting for forever homes). Many of them are available for adoption. It’s also extremely cost-effective–as in free! Generally children adopted through the foster care system have adoptions paid for by the state, and often the families are given a monthly stipend through their 18th birthday, even after the adoption. Yes there are older kids there, but there are hundreds of babies and children under 2 if that is what you are looking for. You might want to ask Bethany if they are licensed for foster care adoptions–you can still go through a private agency who deal with the CYS organizations for you. Check out http://www.adoptuskids.com to check some of the kids.

By: Corrina

Corrina — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 18:20:38 +0000

Sometimes God takes us where we least expect it, to grow us and shape us. In my experience (including the schooling question), when we say “never” He shows us that the decision is not ours, but HIS.:)

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 18:04:05 +0000

You sure do have some big decisions to make! We held our oldest back this year – he’ll start 5K a year later since his birthday made him one of the very youngest. I struggled a LOT last summer with knowing I was doing the right thing, but in the end am VERY glad we chose to do it. You’ll make the right decision, but will agonize over it until you do. I’ll be praying that you’ll find your neon sign!

By: Homegrownstrawberries

Homegrownstrawberries — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 17:27:28 +0000

I am so pleased that you are considering adoption! There are so many children who need parents. I know if we decide to have another it is an option that we would seriously consider.

By: Monica

Monica — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 21:54:06 +0000

Thank you for sharing the decisions and struggles that are on your heart right now. Both of those are very difficult decisions. I will be praying for you as you seek God’s will in both of these areas. It is comforting to know that He knows.